The advent of industrialization's 'flip the switch', along with democracy, has bolstered our sense of self-power and free choice.“Choosing to become mindful” is the reassuring myth we resort to in an attempt to account for what happens. They call them the 'golden years', but don't be fooled.
Following this logic could support the familiarity cause, but alas, at this point it is still just a theory.It is wishful thinking to believe that "If we endeavor to focus on being present and keeping the relationship vibrant and resilient, we can avoid boredom and contempt." The Kaki is less influenced by social need and tends to do its ‘own thing’, while the Indian will often defer its ‘own thing’ if there is a conflict present with its strong social need.Oh my, sorry it got a bit long. Diets work as long as the need to lose weight is strong than the need to eat ‘the cake’. Psychology is not the answer for your mind to base itself on, but rather physics. After all, the fundamental reason we make the decisions we make is always for more happiness. Exponentially. Top antonyms for familiarity breeds contempt (opposite of familiarity breeds contempt) are knowledge is power, awareness is the key and information is power. Like the myths of Helios driving the chariot of the sun across the sky each day, or of God creating Adam and Eve, such are stopgap stories until we discern processes that are more ‘down to earth’. What we find to have contempt with in others is usually something we used to do, or still do, that bothers us. Perhaps you'd like to try? I see this same process play out with my ducks. A conversation between mother and daughter.The phrase “familiarity breeds contempt” sounds like something you might hear in a court of law.
Why do I feel bothered by these things? In doing so, we blind ourselves to the full universality of life.Carl, While you make some good points, you think on too basic of a scale. Beings aren't, by societal rule, made to spend their lives together.On the other hand, it is fair and factual to say that if a relationship is "vibrant" it will not be boring! At this point, love goes out the window, and it becomes a daily struggle.
Affinity breaks down when the LOOP is broken. That being stated, I’d like to point out that we have an aversion to losing happiness (loss-aversion). Instincts are made up of interactions of hormones, chemicals, electrical pulses, and the way they affect the molecules in your brain and are translated through stimuli and your current atomic arrangement of your body and brain. Not acting out. Perhaps we'd be better off saying mediocrity or unhappiness breed contempt. This pattern becomes cyclical, for as soon as one feels denigrated, it's likely that they will react negatively and impart the same negativity upon their partner. Or "it seems to me that you're upset with me, have I done something wrong? That certainty is what makes atheists believers. It just sounds authoritative and judicial. My not subscribing to your belief is not a belief per se.